The short version

I grew up in a difficult home, worked my way to a full scholarship at USC, and spent my early years teaching English in Japan. From there, I stumbled, sweated, and negotiated my way into a global career in logistics—eventually retiring as an executive helping move billions of dollars of goods across the Pacific.

The part that really matters

Titles and air miles make for nice résumés. The real work was closer to home: staying married through the hard decades, raising a son into a kind, decent man, keeping my word when it would have been easier not to, and trying to live with generosity in a world that rewards shortcuts.

Why Either/Or

The name comes from all the crossroads we face: fight or flee, forgive or harden, speak up or stay small. My stories live in those in–between moments, where ordinary people quietly decide who they are going to be.